Another year younger

I celebrated by 43rd birthday on September 4. For the first time that I can remember in my adult life, someone thought enough about me to throw me a birthday party. I had a great time surrounded by family, friends old and new.

My son celebrated his 13th birthday two days before me. I tried to celebrate big with him. He only wanted Playstation 3, Zaxby's, his friends shut up in his bedroom and for me to leave them alone. He is a teenager, what more could I expect.

I say another year younger and not older because each year, each month, each week, each day, I continually learn something new. As the saying goes, "you can't teach an old dog new tricks", since I learn a new "trick" all the time, I am not old and definitely not a dog...lol

My why me question??? Can you celebrate every day as if it was your birthday???? I challenge you to do so.

Why me? Why not???

Smoochies

Miss me? Miss U?

I haven't been blogging for over a month, my schedule has gotten away with me. I have been focused on so many projects, that I can't keep track. Some blame it on my age and memory, but the devil is a lie and I bind that foolishness up. I am 42 and proud, so I am not old, not by anyone's means (this doesn't include the views of my son)...lol.

This blog has been very good for me and I hope good for the few that have read it. There have been a lot of positive changes in my life and I am just enjoying the ride. I give a shout out to the man in my life for teaching me how to love again. (Hey U). I also give him praise for showing me that God is still God, no matter how much I question what's going in. You are one of my best friends!!!

I have so busy that I have not taken the time out to reach out to my friends. For that I apologize wholeheartedly. I know that I try and reach out to you at least once a month for those in SC. I was visiting last weekend and was only able to spend time with two of my gurls. I promise to do better. With my birthday coming up in September, I am trying to do something in SC and in GA. Just want to let you know I love you and appreciate you.

My why me question? Do we ever just stop and take a moment to say hi to those that mean so much to us.

Why me? Why not???

Smoochies

What a man wants, what a man needs????

Do we as women really care??? Honestly, we say we want so much and need so much from men, but do we actually take in to consideration the wants and needs of our men???

What would a man says he really wants? What he really needs? Here's what I think a man wants:

SEX & FOOD, That's about it.....lol

What a man needs:

Support, Love, Understanding, Friendship, Comfort, God, Companionship, Authority, Goals, Sense of Fulfillment, Joy, to Cry, A wife, Kids.......

A woman that can stand by them to provide all the above, including the wants.

If you have a man in your life, be it husband, son, companion, father, simply ask them their wants and needs. We can't read their minds, nor should we try.

Why me? Why not??

Smoochies

Why me??? Why not???

Am I in love or in desperate need of a companion???? I have been dating for a long time and I am just starting to wonder why I even bother. It is getting harder day by day to be with someone of the opposite sex that I find interesting...so what's the point???

Recently, someone I have known for years decided to tell me that he has been admiring for 3 years and decided that this was the year to ask me out. I was shocked and later upset that for 3 years he liked me and wanted to take our friendship to another level, and kept this to himself. I began to wonder where we would be if he would have spoken up 3 years ago. I guess I will never know.

Since his confession, we have spent a great deal of time together and I am beginning to understand just why I like dating. It lets me be me and explore the possibilities of spending time with someone that likes me and wants to know me better. By being friends with him for so long there hasn't been one awkward moment.

So if you have given up on dating....don't!!! Hang in there!!! I am having the best time ever.

Why me?? Why not??

Smoochies

You can go home again!!!!

This weekend I had several events to attend in my hometown. I enjoyed myself more than I could ever imagine.

I have never laughed so hard and realized how much I missed my friends and family back home until this weekend.

I enjoyed an old fashioned front yard bbq birthday party, church when the air is not working and making a close friends day by just stopping by unannounced.

I haven't been home in awhile but decided since I was there, I would see as many of my friends and family that I could. Shouts out to my hostess and my ride or die chick for sticking it out with me the entire time. Love you soooooooooo much. She has been with me since diapers. My other diaper buddy could not make the birthday party, but surprised us by being at another friend's house when we made a surprise drive by!!!!!!!!!!!

So no matter what happens, what people say or think about you, you can go home again!!! If you don't have a home you can come and visit mine in Wagener SC. Small community with BIG hearted folks.

My why me folks question? When's the last time you went home and really enjoyed yourself??

Why me? Why not?

Smoochies

OMG!!!! I've been unfriended on Facebook.....

A few weeks ago a co-worker of mine was unfriended on Facebook by a high school friend of hers. This really upset her. So much that she called the "unfriend" and had a 30 minute conversation as to why she did it and why she should "refriend" her. Really!!!!???? Talking with her she explained that she didn't know what she did and after the talk, she felt much better. She never was "refriended".

Last week, I was unfriended on Facebook by a childhood friend of mine. I told my co-worker and she asked what was I gonna do. I said nothing, and she was shocked. Her response was "Why??" Aren't you at least curious or concerned why it happened??? My response to her was "Hmmm...not really". Just thinking about that made me write this blog.

Is it really heartbreaking and just life altering to be unfriended on Facebook??? I guess for some it is. For me, I have learned in my 42 years of living that friends, good, bad or whatever the meaning come and go. I haven't lost a friendship that I have regretted.... ever. Either I dropped them for a damn good reason or they dropped me for their reason. What I can say is when one goes, another one comes along better than the first.

My advice to my co-worker and to others that have been unfriended on Facebook.....SO WHAT!!! Let it go...Trust me it's not that serious. Accept the unfriending and move on!!! Someone better will come along. If not, embrace the remaining friends you have.

As for me, I am my own best friend.

Why me question? Define a friend

Why me?? Why not???

Smoochies.

Why is who I sleep with any of your business???

Recently, Barbara Walters interviewed Sir Elton John and his partner regarding their new baby. Later that week, a local radio station posted the question: Can gay/lesbian parents raise a straight child.

I found this to be very appalling. Why is this news worth??? Why do we as a society care if a gay/lesbian couple have a child, or even adopt a child???? Is this suppose to be just morally wrong because of their sexual preference??? It seems we concentrate more on the sexual preference of the couple rather than just two loving people wanting to have children.

What about asking the questions can a heterosexual couple raise a straight child??? Can they raise a child that doesn't turn out to be a criminal??? Can they raise a child with a disability???

We as a society need to stop focusing on who's sleeping with who, because that's what it actually boils down to. It's not the parenting of a child, which is a valid concern, it's who's the parent and their sexual lifestyle.

Gimme a break!!!

Why me folks question??? It this really an issue because of a real concern or because the media makes it a concern????

Why me?? Why not?

Smoochies