Yesterday I was speaking with two guy friends of mine. One is married, one is single and dating. In the midst of our conversation about dating, my married friend says that if he was single in today's society, he wouldn't make it. He couldn't even try and date the women of today. I was shocked to hear him say that. I didn't know what he meant by his comment. He went on to say that women are nothing like when he was in his 20's and 30's. It's not even about them being independent, he can deal with that. It's the demands and criteria.
I also have a married girlfriend that made the same comment a few weeks ago. She also stated that it's more of a business to date someone, than just out to have fun and see where the relationship may leave.
Why me folks question? Are we as women really that hard on men???
I myself don't think so. I enjoy going out and meeting new people. I enjoy that men and women have certain standards. Everyone is not going to like them, but then again, they aren't meant for everyone.
As the years of dating progress, so do the standards. What is good for one, may not be good for another. We just have to continue meeting new and exciting people until the "ONE" meets us.
So here's my advice to all of those that are dating in 2011: Suck it up!!!! Either you're gonna get and stay in the dating race and find true love that will last until you take your last breath or you're gonna let the dating world pass you by and remain alone with your cats....lol (no offense to cat lovers).
Why me? Why not??
Smoochies
Monday, April 18, 2011
Friday, April 15, 2011
Are you a help or a nuance???
For several months I have tried to assist family members in bettering their situations. Whether it be personal, financial, spiritual, socially or mentally, I cannot seen to get through.
Why me question? How do you help someone that doesn't think they need help?????
I never want to see a family member live below their potential. I also don't ever want them to say they never accomplished anything because no one helped them. I have been told that I am bossy and if things don't go my way, I get bossier. I agree to some degree. If you ask for my help, and I assist you, then ask if you have completed the task and you say "I'm getting to it", that's not nagging you, it's simply, in my opinion, holding you to your word and keeping you responsible for your actions.
I have several family members that I know can do and need to do better than they are. My friends say that I have too high of an expectation. I don't agree. Especially when the family member is young. This is the perfect time for them to start correcting any mistakes they are making in order not to drag the mistakes into their adult lives (baggage!!!!).
Am I really helping the situation by staying on them or being a nuance by checking them when they began, again in my opinion, slacking off.
Example, my 16 year old nephew wants a job. He really needs a job. He does not extra curricular activities and his grades aren't the best. He came to me for help. I gave him several leads, even sent him to work with my daughter. Did he follow the leads....NO! Did he get up to go to work with my daughter....NO! Then he ask why I won't give him money.... I thought I was going beyond my call of duty by assisting him in getting a job. Like so many other young people, he expects a hand out. Why????????????
This is getting long and I have so many other examples about my family, as I am sure you have some about your own.
All I can say is I am here when needed!!!
Why me? Why not??
Smoochies
Why me question? How do you help someone that doesn't think they need help?????
I never want to see a family member live below their potential. I also don't ever want them to say they never accomplished anything because no one helped them. I have been told that I am bossy and if things don't go my way, I get bossier. I agree to some degree. If you ask for my help, and I assist you, then ask if you have completed the task and you say "I'm getting to it", that's not nagging you, it's simply, in my opinion, holding you to your word and keeping you responsible for your actions.
I have several family members that I know can do and need to do better than they are. My friends say that I have too high of an expectation. I don't agree. Especially when the family member is young. This is the perfect time for them to start correcting any mistakes they are making in order not to drag the mistakes into their adult lives (baggage!!!!).
Am I really helping the situation by staying on them or being a nuance by checking them when they began, again in my opinion, slacking off.
Example, my 16 year old nephew wants a job. He really needs a job. He does not extra curricular activities and his grades aren't the best. He came to me for help. I gave him several leads, even sent him to work with my daughter. Did he follow the leads....NO! Did he get up to go to work with my daughter....NO! Then he ask why I won't give him money.... I thought I was going beyond my call of duty by assisting him in getting a job. Like so many other young people, he expects a hand out. Why????????????
This is getting long and I have so many other examples about my family, as I am sure you have some about your own.
All I can say is I am here when needed!!!
Why me? Why not??
Smoochies
Wednesday, April 6, 2011
Spring Break
I am taking this week off to enjoy my freedom from the kids.
You should take a break also.
Blog ya next week.
Smoochies
You should take a break also.
Blog ya next week.
Smoochies
Monday, March 28, 2011
Last night I cried.....
My eyes saw
My ears heard
They sent a message to my spirit, that told my soul
It sent a jolt to my heart, that alerted my brain that it was ok
So I cried......
Why me question? When was the last time you cried with a purpose???
Why me? Why not???
Be blessed in all you do and say!!!!
Smoochies
My ears heard
They sent a message to my spirit, that told my soul
It sent a jolt to my heart, that alerted my brain that it was ok
So I cried......
Why me question? When was the last time you cried with a purpose???
Why me? Why not???
Be blessed in all you do and say!!!!
Smoochies
Monday, March 21, 2011
Truth tellers
I have a very good gurlfriend (yes I know the word is misspelled), that has taught me a lot about being true to myself over the years. She has taken the time to know me, I mean everything about me and is not afraid to correct me when I am wrong and to tell me the truth, no matter what the outcome. That's her definition of a "truth teller". She believes that everyone should have one.
Her definition of truth teller is a true friend that no matter what tells you the truth. They tell you about a terrible outfit (very important), bad hair style, pissy attitude, even a booger in your nose (that everyone has seen), etc.... but most importantly they love you thru it all.
I have noticed that as we get older, our circle of friends began to decrease. I take this as we begin to understand we need more truth tellers and less fakes in our lives. We need to be surrounded by positive people that hold us up and keep us humble. People that take us for all that we all and don't mind keeping us in line. People that aren't so sensitive when we become their truth tellers.
Why me question? Have you realized that comments you make now to certain people are so sensitive to them, that a argument ensues??? Even over the simplest things???? When did that begin.
Over the past few weeks, I have been a truth teller to some of my good friends. They know me and know that I don't make comments to hurt their feelings, just answering questions that were asked of me honestly and openly. Where is the crime or harm in that??? Stop being so sensitive to matters that don't mean jack when it's comments supposedly made by a friend. It's much easier to just tell your truth teller how you feel and go from there. If you can't hear the truth from a friend, then maybe they aren't your friend. Revisit your definition of a friend.
I love and respect the truth tellers in my life. I have a thick skin and it's take a lot for me to be offended. Thank you for keeping it real. I wouldn't have it any other way.
Why me? Why not?
Smoochies
Her definition of truth teller is a true friend that no matter what tells you the truth. They tell you about a terrible outfit (very important), bad hair style, pissy attitude, even a booger in your nose (that everyone has seen), etc.... but most importantly they love you thru it all.
I have noticed that as we get older, our circle of friends began to decrease. I take this as we begin to understand we need more truth tellers and less fakes in our lives. We need to be surrounded by positive people that hold us up and keep us humble. People that take us for all that we all and don't mind keeping us in line. People that aren't so sensitive when we become their truth tellers.
Why me question? Have you realized that comments you make now to certain people are so sensitive to them, that a argument ensues??? Even over the simplest things???? When did that begin.
Over the past few weeks, I have been a truth teller to some of my good friends. They know me and know that I don't make comments to hurt their feelings, just answering questions that were asked of me honestly and openly. Where is the crime or harm in that??? Stop being so sensitive to matters that don't mean jack when it's comments supposedly made by a friend. It's much easier to just tell your truth teller how you feel and go from there. If you can't hear the truth from a friend, then maybe they aren't your friend. Revisit your definition of a friend.
I love and respect the truth tellers in my life. I have a thick skin and it's take a lot for me to be offended. Thank you for keeping it real. I wouldn't have it any other way.
Why me? Why not?
Smoochies
Monday, March 14, 2011
Weighing In
I have a love hate relationship with my scale. Ugh!!!! I can't stand him (hint, hint). Me and my co-workers decided to start losing weight the beginning of the year and pay a $1 for each pound gained. The pot is growing and growing, much like my hips..lol.
I walked on Saturday 5 miles at Stone Mountain park. Gained 2 pounds. Ridiculous. How do you exercise and gain weight??? It may have been the big breakfast before and after the walk, but I don't believe that. It's the scale in my bathroom. Each morning it taunts me and makes me get on, only to be disappointed with the numbers.
I have tried every diet known to woman and developed by man, and nothing works long term. This year is my 25th high school class reunion and I need to be at my finest when I meet my fellow classmates. My scale has other plans for me. We go back and forth like and old married couple, I try to lose the weight, he tells me I haven't lost a thang....again UGH!!!!
Some may say to just stay off the scale, but it's like my drug of choice. I need instant gratification after eating a healthy meal or exercising for at least 30 minutes. I know, that change doesn't come that quick, but tell that to my hips and thighs. I have also been told that muscle weighs more than fat....who the heck came up with that foolishness. Anywho, I can look like I weigh 1 lb to everyone, but if I get on the scale and it says I weigh 2 lbs, I will tend to believe the scale. Sad, scary, but true.
Help me!!! I need McDonald's to stop make the Filet o' fish and Lay's to stop making the plain potato chips ( I need a bag now) The potato like the scale is my friend and enemy!!!
As I am writing this, a co-worker just bought me a piece of cheesecake from The Cheesecake Factory: 30th Anniversary Chocolate Cheesecake to be exact. Gonna enough the heck out of it and think about the scale later.
Why me, why not??
Smoochies
I walked on Saturday 5 miles at Stone Mountain park. Gained 2 pounds. Ridiculous. How do you exercise and gain weight??? It may have been the big breakfast before and after the walk, but I don't believe that. It's the scale in my bathroom. Each morning it taunts me and makes me get on, only to be disappointed with the numbers.
I have tried every diet known to woman and developed by man, and nothing works long term. This year is my 25th high school class reunion and I need to be at my finest when I meet my fellow classmates. My scale has other plans for me. We go back and forth like and old married couple, I try to lose the weight, he tells me I haven't lost a thang....again UGH!!!!
Some may say to just stay off the scale, but it's like my drug of choice. I need instant gratification after eating a healthy meal or exercising for at least 30 minutes. I know, that change doesn't come that quick, but tell that to my hips and thighs. I have also been told that muscle weighs more than fat....who the heck came up with that foolishness. Anywho, I can look like I weigh 1 lb to everyone, but if I get on the scale and it says I weigh 2 lbs, I will tend to believe the scale. Sad, scary, but true.
Help me!!! I need McDonald's to stop make the Filet o' fish and Lay's to stop making the plain potato chips ( I need a bag now) The potato like the scale is my friend and enemy!!!
As I am writing this, a co-worker just bought me a piece of cheesecake from The Cheesecake Factory: 30th Anniversary Chocolate Cheesecake to be exact. Gonna enough the heck out of it and think about the scale later.
Why me, why not??
Smoochies
Monday, March 7, 2011
Pet Peeve #2 Whining, Bi*ching, Moaning!!
Good Morning,
Why me folks question? Why do I always seem to attract people that feel I am their psychologist???
I have an associate that believes he is the end all to be all when it comes to intelligence, education and women. He has all the answers to the questions before you ask them. If your opinion or comment is different than his, you are wrong are basically uneducated on the issue. Know anyone like that??? I bet you can name a few.
Here's my pet peeve: Why do you have such big ideas of what you're going to do and always state how you're going to do them and how it's gonna benefit you in the long run, but (wait for it), you never do anything. You are a bunch of talk. (sound familiar). I can not stand someone like that, nor have any respect for what you are saying.
I truly believe that we all have a purpose and we are have expectations. When we don't act on them, is when we begin to lose our blessing that God has for us. Why talk, talk, talk and not do anything. Not one thing. Straight procrastinating.
Here's where the whining, bi*ching and moaning come in. You talk a great game, do nothing to act upon it, then whine, bi*ch, and moan when nothing goes your way. Let's give an example:
You have been saying you're gonna start your own business for the past 2 years, but have once to take the first step in getting your business started. Then have the nerve to whine and moan about how bad your job is and you can't wait when you don't have to work for anyone else. Really?????
You come to me talking about the job and what you're gonna do when you own your own business. I listen, then ask what are you waiting for?? You begin to run off a list of reasons (excuses in my opinion) as to why you haven't started. Uggghh!!!
Just do it already!!!!
Why me?? Why not??
Smoochies
Why me folks question? Why do I always seem to attract people that feel I am their psychologist???
I have an associate that believes he is the end all to be all when it comes to intelligence, education and women. He has all the answers to the questions before you ask them. If your opinion or comment is different than his, you are wrong are basically uneducated on the issue. Know anyone like that??? I bet you can name a few.
Here's my pet peeve: Why do you have such big ideas of what you're going to do and always state how you're going to do them and how it's gonna benefit you in the long run, but (wait for it), you never do anything. You are a bunch of talk. (sound familiar). I can not stand someone like that, nor have any respect for what you are saying.
I truly believe that we all have a purpose and we are have expectations. When we don't act on them, is when we begin to lose our blessing that God has for us. Why talk, talk, talk and not do anything. Not one thing. Straight procrastinating.
Here's where the whining, bi*ching and moaning come in. You talk a great game, do nothing to act upon it, then whine, bi*ch, and moan when nothing goes your way. Let's give an example:
You have been saying you're gonna start your own business for the past 2 years, but have once to take the first step in getting your business started. Then have the nerve to whine and moan about how bad your job is and you can't wait when you don't have to work for anyone else. Really?????
You come to me talking about the job and what you're gonna do when you own your own business. I listen, then ask what are you waiting for?? You begin to run off a list of reasons (excuses in my opinion) as to why you haven't started. Uggghh!!!
Just do it already!!!!
Why me?? Why not??
Smoochies
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